I have a problem, What will you do if you were in my place??
okay ppl don't get me wrong here .. i have this problem that i can't say no or i feel so guilty if i said no to someone ..okay so my problem is that all my freiends ( school mates) ( mates in lectures only) ask for my research acadimec papers, assignmets, notes that i wrote in class .. like i love helping people when they are stuck BUT when it comes to taken my work that i stay on it all night and day and someone jsut come and take it like that!! i think noone will accepet it , it's not fair!!!
so is there any way to say '' i dont wna tto give it to you'' IN A POLITE WAY and at the same time make her/ him feel that i dont want to : put in mind i dont like to lie. so please help me what will you do if you were in my place?
Thank you
Your recent problem in school is just a part of your attitude and behaviors in general. Actually, there's no such bullying in any schools or establishments in Qatar. You have to start learning to say NO to others. Just think of being fair to yourself first, you cannot solve your problem with other people if you will not start within yourself. Saying NO is not really that bad. If you have better reasons, if you had thought of something that might be more unfair, irrational, unpleasant, worst, horrifying...more negative, then just simply say NO. Your friends are not really "a friend to you" if they will feel bad or of they will be upset or angry at you if you will reject some favors. "Remember that you wont lost a friend if you will be true to yourself".
you are not actually helping them... you're making them lazy eventhough your intentions are good...there are so many ways how you can help them...you can organize a study group...
Two types of answer:-
1) A flat NO. And I mean NO. Because they are not being honest and by helping them also means you are dishonest too. By helping your friends now eventually harm them at the later stage. Also put down your good effort too.
2) Give them one of your many draft copy and incomplete, just claim you have not finished. You did helped but not totally and somehow they will still need to put in that little effort to prepare or end the pieces their own way. So not that bad.
If you still cannot choose what to do..then do not bother to ask for advice any more.
don't lie and just say big nooooooooooooo,
You'd better learn or practise to say the followings:-
"No, I'm sorry my dear."
"It's just not right to do that since it's my work."
"You'll never learn if you keep copying others."
"Our religion ask us to work hard and be honest in everything we do."
"I'm so sorry to say but it's cheating by doing that."
why do you want to maintain indecent freinds? and suffer from unpleasant attitude., friendship doest not mean for that., such unwanted elements may be truncated for good and get rid of headache once for all and be in peace.
Just explain them in black and white that the assignment/home work is like a test/exam where teacher want to judge the individual student's effort/approach/understanding and this should be coming from the student him/herself... so if they borrow your effort that means its like deceiving the judgement of the teacher or cheating and this is not GOOOOOD.
At the same time you should always assist others in guiding on how to approach/response the assignment...this actually will improve your performance and knowledge....
Hope this helps
Good Luck
when they ask just tell them that you have not done it.
When you submit it and they ask when you did it, tell then that you did it early this morning..
I would suggest you to teach them whatever the things they find difficult, On the contrary you dont need to be that much polite all the time.
tell them you will show them after you submit your work :)