iat7b: I can understand your concern and frustrations. This is because I had faced a similar situation many years back with my daughter who was around the same age as your child.
There are many reasons why your child has come to this situation. First of all, he had developed a close affinity with his grandparents and misses them much due to their love, affection and attention he got from them. When my wife came here, my daughter missed my sister-in-law very much to whom she was closely attached. We faced a similar situation as you are in now. But then, we gradually worked into her mind by taking her out on a regular basis, buying her toys from time to time and also her favourite meal which was KFC Nuggets. She began to realize that we too could give her more. In her little mind she gradually began to weigh things and ultimately forgot the sister-in-law. What your child needs as of now is an atmosphere of love and understanding from his parents, that's all.
You cannot just expect school teachers to do the job of bring in the change in the child. Their interaction is just for a limited period of time and also they have other students to deal with in the class. The change in the child needs to come from the home itself. I do not believe in psychologists being able to solve such issues. The real psychologists are present right in the home
Yes, there are reasons why he does not want to go school. It happened with my daughter also. We then tried to understand the problem. We got to learn she was very slow to understand our language especially the writing part and she was way back in the subject in the class due to this. Both my wife and I took up the job of gradually educating her at home. She picked up the subject within several weeks, and the school-going problem became a thing of the past.
My suggestion to you is to get hold of a tutor who would not just be a teacher but also become his friend. This person if he knows how to handle children, will gradually win him over on his side. The young man would begin to like him much then and open up to him. Your child will change, and you will begin to see it visible. It is not necessary for the tutor to be a female or a westerner. Just look around and you will come across one even from your own country. But just don't pick anyone who is interested in just the money.
If you need any further guidance or assistance, PM me your contact details and I will assist you as best as I can. Remember: Don't give up. It is not a hopeless case as I realize from your post.
iat7b: I can understand your concern and frustrations. This is because I had faced a similar situation many years back with my daughter who was around the same age as your child.
There are many reasons why your child has come to this situation. First of all, he had developed a close affinity with his grandparents and misses them much due to their love, affection and attention he got from them. When my wife came here, my daughter missed my sister-in-law very much to whom she was closely attached. We faced a similar situation as you are in now. But then, we gradually worked into her mind by taking her out on a regular basis, buying her toys from time to time and also her favourite meal which was KFC Nuggets. She began to realize that we too could give her more. In her little mind she gradually began to weigh things and ultimately forgot the sister-in-law. What your child needs as of now is an atmosphere of love and understanding from his parents, that's all.
You cannot just expect school teachers to do the job of bring in the change in the child. Their interaction is just for a limited period of time and also they have other students to deal with in the class. The change in the child needs to come from the home itself. I do not believe in psychologists being able to solve such issues. The real psychologists are present right in the home
Yes, there are reasons why he does not want to go school. It happened with my daughter also. We then tried to understand the problem. We got to learn she was very slow to understand our language especially the writing part and she was way back in the subject in the class due to this. Both my wife and I took up the job of gradually educating her at home. She picked up the subject within several weeks, and the school-going problem became a thing of the past.
My suggestion to you is to get hold of a tutor who would not just be a teacher but also become his friend. This person if he knows how to handle children, will gradually win him over on his side. The young man would begin to like him much then and open up to him. Your child will change, and you will begin to see it visible. It is not necessary for the tutor to be a female or a westerner. Just look around and you will come across one even from your own country. But just don't pick anyone who is interested in just the money.
If you need any further guidance or assistance, PM me your contact details and I will assist you as best as I can. Remember: Don't give up. It is not a hopeless case as I realize from your post.