..... I've been very hurt by all of this and have looked at this in a rational way by trying to show him how much I still love and care for him by bowing out gracefully. I have been here for him since he's been home attending his own family bereavement and his attention was so that people thought we were back together but I can see now that it was all a front and I know I have to move on but I need to do this with respect for myself but let them know I am fully aware of what they are planning behind my back. I just needed a little advice on how I can do this as Qatar law is different from the uk. I know her first name so could cite her on the divorce papers but I'm not sure if that will have any effect.