MC: because J is presumably a homemaker and H a horrible cook..H will presumably run to the store get J what's needed..they are also presumably indian and its a different husband/wife dynamic to the one familiar to you...and J will gladly host H's colleagues because she loves him...if you notice, she even calls it the H household...they have willingly taken up distinct and equally critical responsibilities, he as breadwinner and she as guardian of their castle (she calls it HIS castle) ..its not about the ego trip of who does what and whether it makes either one of them less equal than the other..