Godfather: while your tone is decidedly unpleasant, I do agree with the gist of your message. This is happening in many an immigrant household all over the west. Parents come to earn a livelihood (with their strong cultural beliefs in tow), kids grow up in a foreign culture and adopt it (only natural and nothing wrong with that too)..and soon the tug of war starts..so yes, think long and hard before you decide to set up shop in a foreign land i guess..but can't solely vilify joint families to make your point:-)