I don't get your mentality man , you live in the 21st century yet you talk like your still living in the 19th century.Joint families are a concept of the past , there is no point lamenting about it now . No matter how much you try to argue it's impossible for man to turn back to the stone age.
Then you said that we take care of all our belonging's including our briefcases , yes it's true we do , because these are all materialistic items. A woman is not something you own , a woman is a human being and if she is your wife then she's with you because she chose to stay with you. Hence unless you learn to respect her , she's not going to stay with you or else you'll have to chain her to you.