One of the foremost lessons I have learned of marriage in general is that marriages are as multifarious and diverse as people are. One simply cannot and should not compare...Sure there will be some similarities, but as a whole every marriage, and the circumstances surrounding them, will be different from one another.
However For most marriages to succeed there are some key elements (although some marriages survive even without them!) like love, courtesy, trust, loyalty, patience,honesty etc.
Love or arranged? Again depends on the individual, their faith, beliefs, family background,cultures,etc. In my family arranged marriages are considered prehistoric and a strict no no. Hence when I became a practicing Muslimah, I had to depend on friends and acquaintances to play matchmakers and thankfully they did a good enough job, may God bless em!
Personally getting married to my husband is one of the best things I ever did, and I have no regrets. Sure I had to make sacrifices, I mean who dosent? But considering the amount of alterations and renouncement I made when I started practicing Islam, marriage was in comparison a pleasure and piece of cake, and truly made my life much happier and fulfilling than single-hood did,AlHamdulilah!
As long as you are married to the right person(right for you ie) then marriage will surely bring you more joy, though of course no marriage, just like life itself, is ever bereft of both ups and downs!
One of the foremost lessons I have learned of marriage in general is that marriages are as multifarious and diverse as people are. One simply cannot and should not compare...Sure there will be some similarities, but as a whole every marriage, and the circumstances surrounding them, will be different from one another.
However For most marriages to succeed there are some key elements (although some marriages survive even without them!) like love, courtesy, trust, loyalty, patience,honesty etc.
Love or arranged? Again depends on the individual, their faith, beliefs, family background,cultures,etc. In my family arranged marriages are considered prehistoric and a strict no no. Hence when I became a practicing Muslimah, I had to depend on friends and acquaintances to play matchmakers and thankfully they did a good enough job, may God bless em!
Personally getting married to my husband is one of the best things I ever did, and I have no regrets. Sure I had to make sacrifices, I mean who dosent? But considering the amount of alterations and renouncement I made when I started practicing Islam, marriage was in comparison a pleasure and piece of cake, and truly made my life much happier and fulfilling than single-hood did,AlHamdulilah!
As long as you are married to the right person(right for you ie) then marriage will surely bring you more joy, though of course no marriage, just like life itself, is ever bereft of both ups and downs!