@BB: An American wife, here in Qatar, will also be sponsored by her husband and all the rules will equally apply to her.
You are in great illusion that ALL American wives "live happily ever after"....
@Lizzie: To make a marriage successful it needs mature behavior from both ends. Tolerance is the key. You, because of the cultural differences, are in a bit of difficult situation.
So, in my opinion, it is about the person you are getting married to and not the religion (that much).
Besides, there is a saying of our prophet (paraphrasing) that marriage can happen because of these things 1)Piety 2) Beauty 3) Wealth 4)Status. The best of these is when done because of Piety.
I am a strong believer that Allah put love and affection between the hearts of husband and wife.
My last advise to you perform istekhara in all the big matters of life and marriage is one of the biggest matter of life. Perform istekhara and then move forward according to it's results. InshaAllah, it will be better for you and Allah will help you in whatever path you will turn to.
If you want, PM me. I will give you my wife's number for you to talk to, if you like. She will better explain you your rights in Islam as wife.
@BB: An American wife, here in Qatar, will also be sponsored by her husband and all the rules will equally apply to her.
You are in great illusion that ALL American wives "live happily ever after"....
@Lizzie: To make a marriage successful it needs mature behavior from both ends. Tolerance is the key. You, because of the cultural differences, are in a bit of difficult situation.
So, in my opinion, it is about the person you are getting married to and not the religion (that much).
Besides, there is a saying of our prophet (paraphrasing) that marriage can happen because of these things 1)Piety 2) Beauty 3) Wealth 4)Status. The best of these is when done because of Piety.
I am a strong believer that Allah put love and affection between the hearts of husband and wife.
My last advise to you perform istekhara in all the big matters of life and marriage is one of the biggest matter of life. Perform istekhara and then move forward according to it's results. InshaAllah, it will be better for you and Allah will help you in whatever path you will turn to.
If you want, PM me. I will give you my wife's number for you to talk to, if you like. She will better explain you your rights in Islam as wife.