i think u should take a walk or as soon as u know u r not gonna control ur anger , leave the room, or dont stay at the same place as of her...... wen u come back to senses , then talk to her.......

try to reason urself , is it really your wife u r angry at or any work related stress that u blame it on her..... i think realizing a reason will make u understand more and will able u to control ur anger .