I hope you understand that we human beings should not be like candles: with the hope of guiding others to success we burn ourselves out.
I love my brothers and sisters too,and wish I could do more for them. Just like you I feel guilty that we are here enjoying the paradise of the world whilst they are trialed. But remember Allah is in full power and control over us all. And at any point we Muslims must not give into our emotions and desperation and do things against Islam.
Again I am not judging the brother,for I am not trialed with what he is trialed with..Audubillah.I pray earnestly that his soul departs only as a martyr.
I read some Quranic ayahs today on how we Muslims must deal with injustices and invasions. Truly this is important,as none of us have been promised immunity from trials and tribulations.