Thank you all for you comments. Mandi you are right, i need to do a little digging and have a discussion with HR before I progress any further. The information they have sent me very clearly states that a female cannot sponsor her husband, which doesn't appear to be the case based on the comments abovve. Also I did think it was a bit strange that they would expect a young western women to jump on a plane out there without her children, but I thought if it was guranteed only for a few weeks this would be fine. Now there is no set date I am not so convinced. I don't care were in the world I am as long as the children are there with me and as you say, if the company has any real credit surely they would want to make things as easy as possible (by the way it's HMC, have you or anyone you know had any personal experience with these). Thank you