but you need to realize that they also have their INDIVIDUAL distinct responsibility for their family in the same way that a man have his duty to his wife and the wife to his husband.

Why do you think they were created differently if they they don't have specific function? TRUE, they have COMMON function but also true that they have individual function.

And since you choose to work and FEED your husband (which I believe is very much able, unless he's not), I just hope you sustain that. Good luck to your family.