An Islamic scholar once said something to the effect of beware of those who gossip/back bite/slander others with you cos rest assured they will soon do the same thing to you with others.
Personally whilst I find this practice detestable, I must admit it's something we fall into unconsciously sometimes. It's easier to notice it on others, and yet when we ourselves are the perpetrators, our minds will somehow go on defensive mode. To best avoid this all we can do is try our bests to restrain saying anything about anyone behind their backs what we wouldn't say if within their earshot.
An Islamic scholar once said something to the effect of beware of those who gossip/back bite/slander others with you cos rest assured they will soon do the same thing to you with others.
Personally whilst I find this practice detestable, I must admit it's something we fall into unconsciously sometimes. It's easier to notice it on others, and yet when we ourselves are the perpetrators, our minds will somehow go on defensive mode. To best avoid this all we can do is try our bests to restrain saying anything about anyone behind their backs what we wouldn't say if within their earshot.