and someone is looking for a ALLY.  And she chose a wrong person.

Jayca, very true, making love is not a sin if you do it the right way and the right time. The right way is doing it with your spouse.  And the right time is after your marriage.  Now, if you don't believe in marriage, fine, but remember, belief is also bounded by rules and law.

To some, murder is not a crime (have you heard of honor killing) and similar thing. So, if you bore a child out of wedlock, you will use the same law (in our country) to protect your child (for hs/her right) from his.her father, right?  But you opted to make love out of wedlock! So, it really depends on what you believe.