Stealth is speaking from his own cultural prespective, which is fine but is not everyone's norm. Very unheard of in the west for the grandmother to move abroad to cater to the children/grandchildren's needs - I know my mother would not, she came for a month when my son was born and that was enough - I think I would have to pay her a million pounds to get her to come back to qatar.

In the end I have a combination of nanny/nursery. The problem with just nanny is that you are stuck if she is sick and the problem with nursery you have a problem if the child is sick. I have the best of both worlds