i am legally married to this man and have been for over ten years, we have been together for over 16yrs and we have two children..yes i do know who she is i have her address and telephone numbers (she refuses to answer suprise!!) i have spoken to my husband he denies it (of course) i have seen photo of them together(and yes i know its not proof) and i have seen the e-mails from her to him i e-mailed her from his e-mail add, asked her to call me and she did..hence i got her number and have since tried calling her she answered once saying'i am sorry i made a mistake...which i accept .....but i want the situation resolved i want him to return to the uk and explain and stay in uk or get divorced...thanks for your comments........i was happily married, i have been a good, loving and loyal wife.i do not want to hurt anyone or cause trouble i am a good person but i will not allow myself to be treated like this