Yes, and I agree to that.. But I was merely adding to what you had to say, about couples must ideally do when facing hard times.

I firmly believe that the best way to remove all uncertainties in any sort of a relationship-be it friendship, partnership, family, any thing- is to communicate well with each other. Bring things to the table, no matter how awkward they may seem initially. And of course, no body will say 100% of the things which is on their mind, but at least its a start..