thank you all!  Whenever I have visit them I never exposed my hair or any body part, long clothing etc and in public in the regions we were I always had almost always full coverage.  but here only- I mean in public- is it good enough to only cover my hair and not neck.  or will I stand out like a weed, this is maybe perceived as disrespectful not covering my neck?  I think everyone will say, oh why she not covering her neck.  not to him and family, I mean otherwise.  this is typical Jewish tradition also married women cover their hair so it is the same style scarfing.  will still be wearing modest clothing not exposing arms legs nothing, only sandals I think cause he said it was ok.  oh and this is totally my choice, in fact I am scared to admit, I feel so much pressure where I live now that I have lost courage.  oh and we living in our own place but the family is seeing them every day you know like this