just six years now and I must say so far its been quite a roller-coaster ride that I can't imagine how being married for 26 years must feel..Good for you flor and your wifey.. Congrats!
IMO marriage does take some hard work specially in the initial "learning" stages but it also has pays off good. Patience is the key..that and not expecting too much or too little from your spouse, compromise and knowing when to say what and when silence is golden!
In arguments it helps if one party tries to remain ice cool as possible. Fighting fire with fire doesn't always work and may actually intensify what could have been solved easily. And another rule..once forgiven it must be forgotten. No raking up old mistakes to prove a point.
And absolutely no unfavorable comparison should be tolerated. no "oh so and so's hubby is so caring why can't you be like him " Accept no ones perfect..period! we are all human. Of cos personally I have stuff I will not accept from my man like say extra marital affairs, committing illegal acts knowingly, physical abuse etc but thats not say I would judge those who chose to forgive their partners in these matters as well. All in all marriage rocks..period. and there's really no hard and fast foolproof rules!
just six years now and I must say so far its been quite a roller-coaster ride that I can't imagine how being married for 26 years must feel..Good for you flor and your wifey.. Congrats!
IMO marriage does take some hard work specially in the initial "learning" stages but it also has pays off good. Patience is the key..that and not expecting too much or too little from your spouse, compromise and knowing when to say what and when silence is golden!
In arguments it helps if one party tries to remain ice cool as possible. Fighting fire with fire doesn't always work and may actually intensify what could have been solved easily. And another rule..once forgiven it must be forgotten. No raking up old mistakes to prove a point.
And absolutely no unfavorable comparison should be tolerated. no "oh so and so's hubby is so caring why can't you be like him " Accept no ones perfect..period! we are all human. Of cos personally I have stuff I will not accept from my man like say extra marital affairs, committing illegal acts knowingly, physical abuse etc but thats not say I would judge those who chose to forgive their partners in these matters as well. All in all marriage rocks..period. and there's really no hard and fast foolproof rules!