So what are we discussing here, if homosexuality exist or not, how to cure it, and if yes. Why should we? And does being homosexual makes you a bad person? Is homosexuality something people are born with, or something psychological as a result of social pressure?
I have a gay friend from Dubai, he is a very good friend of mine and has always helped me and stood by my side when no one did. The way he became gay was because he was raped as a child repeatedly and so he ended up this way. But is that an excuse? I know another friend who was also raped but he is straight and couldn’t be more of a straight man.
Anyways, my gay friend came to visit some relative in Qatar and we all went to Villagio to have coffee. His cousins are very beautiful girls and very attractive. But that day, they seemed to look like monkeys next to him, in other men’s eyes. I couldn’t believe what was going on, it was like all young men in Villagio went crazy! They were flirting with him in front of us. And even few of them dared to come to our table and give him their number, my gay friend asked “is it for me or for the girls” and the men answered “for you of course”.
Another friend of mine, a Qatari girl, had her heart broken several times by men. So she decided to be a lesbian. And now she is very happy with her girlfriend. I don’t know if she suddenly developed this tendency because she lost hope in men, or if it existed in her and she just realized it.
What would happen if we as a nation addressed this problem? I don’t thing anything could be done about it. Whether it was a choice or not, people will do whatever they feel like.
What Superwoman said about some mothers preferring their girls to be lesbians than to have a normal sexual attraction to men is very true. It all comes down to the hymen, as long as this window of honour is not broken before marriage, then you can do whatever you want. People might not understand the logic behind this, or think its absurd but this is how some traditional people think.
Maybe, Superwoman's main argument here is not about homosexuality, but about why people choose to accept doing things that are religiously (or culturally) wrong as long as its undercover and doesn’t touch their perfect image in society and their reputation.
What is right and what is wrong in this society that changes very quickly is very relative. I do not know what it depends on. For example, in the 90s, a girl who has a mobile phone was directly thought of as (bad girl). My uncle for example had a fight with me about having a mobile phone while I was in high school, he was convinced that I used it to have (haram) relations with men. Few years later, he buys a phone for all his daughters who are still in school. Same thing with wearing trousers under the abaya, or riding in a care with the driver without a chaperone, or even driving a car …..Etc. All of these things that were not allowed are allowed now.
But there are too many issues raised here which makes it confusing and difficult to discuss and answer any of the questions raised.
Superwoman believes that homosexuality is due to gender segregation, I partially agree. There is definitely sexual tension between both genders. ( of course it is normal and human nature to have this tension) but it is on a very high level I would say. I saw the difference between Qatari students who went to co-ed schools and those who went to non co-ed schools. or look at the difference when a Qatari man deals with a foriegn woman, or the opposite. Girls would not feel scared to speak to a foreigner, or even be seen with him publically. but god forbids it happens with a Qatari! It seems like there is fear and distrust between girls and boys here .. too much confusion!
Lets look at the big picture rather than focusing on choice of words like short hair .. walking like a man …etc.
So what are we discussing here, if homosexuality exist or not, how to cure it, and if yes. Why should we? And does being homosexual makes you a bad person? Is homosexuality something people are born with, or something psychological as a result of social pressure?
I have a gay friend from Dubai, he is a very good friend of mine and has always helped me and stood by my side when no one did. The way he became gay was because he was raped as a child repeatedly and so he ended up this way. But is that an excuse? I know another friend who was also raped but he is straight and couldn’t be more of a straight man.
Anyways, my gay friend came to visit some relative in Qatar and we all went to Villagio to have coffee. His cousins are very beautiful girls and very attractive. But that day, they seemed to look like monkeys next to him, in other men’s eyes. I couldn’t believe what was going on, it was like all young men in Villagio went crazy! They were flirting with him in front of us. And even few of them dared to come to our table and give him their number, my gay friend asked “is it for me or for the girls” and the men answered “for you of course”.
Another friend of mine, a Qatari girl, had her heart broken several times by men. So she decided to be a lesbian. And now she is very happy with her girlfriend. I don’t know if she suddenly developed this tendency because she lost hope in men, or if it existed in her and she just realized it.
What would happen if we as a nation addressed this problem? I don’t thing anything could be done about it. Whether it was a choice or not, people will do whatever they feel like.
What Superwoman said about some mothers preferring their girls to be lesbians than to have a normal sexual attraction to men is very true. It all comes down to the hymen, as long as this window of honour is not broken before marriage, then you can do whatever you want. People might not understand the logic behind this, or think its absurd but this is how some traditional people think.
Maybe, Superwoman's main argument here is not about homosexuality, but about why people choose to accept doing things that are religiously (or culturally) wrong as long as its undercover and doesn’t touch their perfect image in society and their reputation.
What is right and what is wrong in this society that changes very quickly is very relative. I do not know what it depends on. For example, in the 90s, a girl who has a mobile phone was directly thought of as (bad girl). My uncle for example had a fight with me about having a mobile phone while I was in high school, he was convinced that I used it to have (haram) relations with men. Few years later, he buys a phone for all his daughters who are still in school. Same thing with wearing trousers under the abaya, or riding in a care with the driver without a chaperone, or even driving a car …..Etc. All of these things that were not allowed are allowed now.
But there are too many issues raised here which makes it confusing and difficult to discuss and answer any of the questions raised.
Superwoman believes that homosexuality is due to gender segregation, I partially agree. There is definitely sexual tension between both genders. ( of course it is normal and human nature to have this tension) but it is on a very high level I would say. I saw the difference between Qatari students who went to co-ed schools and those who went to non co-ed schools. or look at the difference when a Qatari man deals with a foriegn woman, or the opposite. Girls would not feel scared to speak to a foreigner, or even be seen with him publically. but god forbids it happens with a Qatari! It seems like there is fear and distrust between girls and boys here .. too much confusion!
Lets look at the big picture rather than focusing on choice of words like short hair .. walking like a man …etc.