If he's disappearing for 5 days without contacting and he's not a top secret spy then he doesn't love you. If you're flirting with another guy, even when you're hurt, you don't love him. Accept that and move on from the relationship.

literal people are scary, man, literal people scare me
out there trying to rid the world of its poetry while getting it wrong fundamentally down at the church of "look,it sez right here, see!" Ani Difranco