my final take on this topic....and i don't care two hoots what everybody else thinks....all women who change their surnames post marriage are clearly people with no self-respect and individuality and would rather be known with their husband's name tag rather than their own.this deed has no effect whatsoever on the intimacy of a relationship no matter what is thought about it otherwise.in this male dominated society it does take a certain amount of self-esteem and courage for a woman to stand up for herself and not in the shadow of her husband....which,i'm sorry to say,a huge majority of women are not blessed with.and i'm sorry for them.i am thankful to God and to my parents for creating me differently and for teaching me to think for myself and stand up against society if it demands you to do something that your conscience does not permit you to do.i am also extremely sorry for all the women out there who have felt a pang of guilt somewhere deep within after reading this thread that maybe they did a mistake back in the days immediately after marriage by rushing to change their name in a fit of blind love for their new found life partner whom society demands to be thought of as God and to be considered as the end of their world!it's alright,girls.it's not your fault really.if you have felt that some good has come out of this discussion,at least advise your children not to commit the same mistake as you did.
thank you very much.
P.S:now i'm expecting all the frustrated women to come forth and "boo" at me.go on,girls.i'll take it.you have to vent it out someplace.if u choose QL and my thread for it,so be it. :-) cheers!
"You are never alone or helpless. The force that guides the stars guides you too.” ~ Amrta Shrii Shrii Anandamurti(Indian born Guru, 1921-1990)
my final take on this topic....and i don't care two hoots what everybody else thinks....all women who change their surnames post marriage are clearly people with no self-respect and individuality and would rather be known with their husband's name tag rather than their own.this deed has no effect whatsoever on the intimacy of a relationship no matter what is thought about it otherwise.in this male dominated society it does take a certain amount of self-esteem and courage for a woman to stand up for herself and not in the shadow of her husband....which,i'm sorry to say,a huge majority of women are not blessed with.and i'm sorry for them.i am thankful to God and to my parents for creating me differently and for teaching me to think for myself and stand up against society if it demands you to do something that your conscience does not permit you to do.i am also extremely sorry for all the women out there who have felt a pang of guilt somewhere deep within after reading this thread that maybe they did a mistake back in the days immediately after marriage by rushing to change their name in a fit of blind love for their new found life partner whom society demands to be thought of as God and to be considered as the end of their world!it's alright,girls.it's not your fault really.if you have felt that some good has come out of this discussion,at least advise your children not to commit the same mistake as you did.
thank you very much.
P.S:now i'm expecting all the frustrated women to come forth and "boo" at me.go on,girls.i'll take it.you have to vent it out someplace.if u choose QL and my thread for it,so be it. :-) cheers!
"You are never alone or helpless. The force that guides the stars guides you too.”
~ Amrta Shrii Shrii Anandamurti(Indian born Guru, 1921-1990)