i won in the issue of not changing my surname,FS....i don't think a marriage has to do anything with a name.and i guess that very thinking of mine has caused so many arguments.

neither my husband nor his family had any issues with that.i just remembered now that my mom-in-law still retains her maiden name.but my co-sister changed her name post-marriage.so it was upto us completely.it never really was an issue at my in-laws place.i guess it's all a matter of family pride.we are a bit too arrogantly proud of the illustrious familes that we come from and just don't have the heart to let go of it for anything.....or anyone.suits me fine :-D

Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor