SS, Everyone I know in the UK that has got married have changed their name, apart from one, and she is actually quite insecure in herself unlike the rest of my friends.

If you feel happy/secure about who you are, a name wouldn't make a difference. You're still "you", regardless of what your surname is.

If you start a marriage by "mine and yours", you're not sharing your life together, it's more of a marriage of convenience.

You have to put into a marriage what you want back in return :-)

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