that's an old concept,FS....'ours'....doesn't work all the time with everyone.and certainly not with me.there are some lines to be drawn in any relationship.that helps to avoid conflicts and arguments.okay,so people have a preconceived notion that it's the way it should work.but i don't see it as a rule.i personally know so many familes in the west who are so fiercely protective of their identities.they lead very happy (touchwood!) lives with their children and THEIR children too.they have individual bank accounts and neither is allowed to encroach into the other's finances.the kids have a fund in their name for their education and other purposes into which both parents contribute equally.they even built their house on an equal share basis.makes life more easy,IMHO.equality is the new rule,babe!
Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor
that's an old concept,FS....'ours'....doesn't work all the time with everyone.and certainly not with me.there are some lines to be drawn in any relationship.that helps to avoid conflicts and arguments.okay,so people have a preconceived notion that it's the way it should work.but i don't see it as a rule.i personally know so many familes in the west who are so fiercely protective of their identities.they lead very happy (touchwood!) lives with their children and THEIR children too.they have individual bank accounts and neither is allowed to encroach into the other's finances.the kids have a fund in their name for their education and other purposes into which both parents contribute equally.they even built their house on an equal share basis.makes life more easy,IMHO.equality is the new rule,babe!
Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor
