Again, I can only answer what's the norm in my culture. Could be different for other cultures, eventhough we are both muslims.
Also, I assume by 'dowry' you mean things that a man give to his prospective wife. I prefer to call it 'bride's money' (in Melayu or bahasa Indonesia 'Emas Kawin') because a dowry to me mean things that was given to a girl from her parents/guardian at the time of her marriage (BTW, once given both dowry and bride's money are her sacred property, to be used entirely according to her wish).
So back to your question. In my culture, A muslim girl has the final say of whom she want to marry, provided that the prospective groom is a 'suitable' muslim. Now, of course her family may try to argue, persuade and cajole her to change her mind, but that's basically the limit of what they can do. (No, the so called 'honor killing' is not a fixture in my culture, especially in this day and age.....)
As I mentioned earlier if all else fail, the couple my elope and 'marry on the run'. Of course, by doing this, she risked disownment and disinheritance from her family, but that's her choice.
Again, I can only answer what's the norm in my culture. Could be different for other cultures, eventhough we are both muslims.
Also, I assume by 'dowry' you mean things that a man give to his prospective wife. I prefer to call it 'bride's money' (in Melayu or bahasa Indonesia 'Emas Kawin') because a dowry to me mean things that was given to a girl from her parents/guardian at the time of her marriage (BTW, once given both dowry and bride's money are her sacred property, to be used entirely according to her wish).
So back to your question. In my culture, A muslim girl has the final say of whom she want to marry, provided that the prospective groom is a 'suitable' muslim. Now, of course her family may try to argue, persuade and cajole her to change her mind, but that's basically the limit of what they can do. (No, the so called 'honor killing' is not a fixture in my culture, especially in this day and age.....)
As I mentioned earlier if all else fail, the couple my elope and 'marry on the run'. Of course, by doing this, she risked disownment and disinheritance from her family, but that's her choice.
Cheers
SK