both,in fact.my friends are also people i care about and when i try to reason with them,they don't seem to understand the reason.and about me staying out of a fotograph...it's not always possible to see who's clicking ur pics and we don't always strike a pose.i usually come to know of it when i get a notification that i've been tagged.i turned off the tag feature.and then it was worse....i didn't even know if and when a pic of mine was uploaded!and to be honest,i don't bother to go thru hundereds of photographs each time a friend creates an album to find if i'm in it....

Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor