maybe this post of mine would create quite a few ruffled feathers on QL...but i can't resist posting this.
despite being an indian myself,i feel that indian culture gives too much importance to the bond of marriage.even in this 21st century,i know my community considers it a disgrace to the family to have a divorcee son or daughter.they may not say so openly but i have personally heard hushed talks behind backs.ours is one that still advocates arranged marriages which bring together two strangers.prior to marriage minimal interaction is allowed between both parties.and whatever interaction is allowed is heavily monitored causing both the guy and the girl to be perfectly mannered and display only the best sides of their character.so the guy and the girl hardly know each other when they get married.it was acceptable in the past,coz women had literally no choices and there was nothing beyond their husband and the front door of their house.today is an age of educated working women and we too are entitled to make our own choices.ditto for men.it is sheer absurdity to even think that two individuals who have two totally different outlooks should and must remain together as man and wife just coz society demands it.it may not always be that God brings together like-minded people into holy matrimony.in fact,in most cases i have come across,all i get to hear is the word 'adjustment'..."we have to adjust" or "we have to compromise"....two words i have come to hate!Adjust and Compromise!is this what a marriage is all about?
i am clueless.....
Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor
maybe this post of mine would create quite a few ruffled feathers on QL...but i can't resist posting this.
despite being an indian myself,i feel that indian culture gives too much importance to the bond of marriage.even in this 21st century,i know my community considers it a disgrace to the family to have a divorcee son or daughter.they may not say so openly but i have personally heard hushed talks behind backs.ours is one that still advocates arranged marriages which bring together two strangers.prior to marriage minimal interaction is allowed between both parties.and whatever interaction is allowed is heavily monitored causing both the guy and the girl to be perfectly mannered and display only the best sides of their character.so the guy and the girl hardly know each other when they get married.it was acceptable in the past,coz women had literally no choices and there was nothing beyond their husband and the front door of their house.today is an age of educated working women and we too are entitled to make our own choices.ditto for men.it is sheer absurdity to even think that two individuals who have two totally different outlooks should and must remain together as man and wife just coz society demands it.it may not always be that God brings together like-minded people into holy matrimony.in fact,in most cases i have come across,all i get to hear is the word 'adjustment'..."we have to adjust" or "we have to compromise"....two words i have come to hate!Adjust and Compromise!is this what a marriage is all about?
i am clueless.....
Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor
