how much you should bring would depend on basically what your family would want + a quantity sufficient for just another 2 people (that's the way the estimation has been made for the quantity of food so food doesnt go waste or less...!)

Not a good idea about each and every one bringing food... some could be designated to bring other then food like table chairs bbq stand etc etc

I know you will say others are bringing disposables and stuff.

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