For most men, what they wanted out of women is sex, not necessary true love especially at the roaming age. They want to get the most of it before they are tied down to marriage. For women, is money and indulgent. Remember all these lovers sweet talks at the time of dating, and war after marriage. Its rather too late to fix the problem after relationship. The damage have been done. Try to see if the above fits in, before accepting a date, and practice your wise judgement.