I like the idea of the list, but I think it's naive to expect that your wife will 'love' you if you do all those things.

It might help her tolerate you, or respect you, or stay with you, but love isn't just something that emerges because you treat someone nicely. Love is something special that happens between people on a more emotional level.

Think about it - in the workplace you should treat everyone in most of the same ways that you describe in your list, with the exception of foreplay etc :P

But treating your co-workers nicely, with patience, with tolerance, with respect etc, will not make them *love* you.