smoke - Kind words are the easiest way to be nice to each other. Frankly, only an immature person would feel that they need to make someone feel worse when they are already sad. Intelligent people do try to negotiate their way out of wars before shooting each other up. I am guessing that your negotiation and inter-personal skills aren't really your strong point, or you would realise that talking and kindness does get you a long way. Picking on someone you don't even know who is clearly upset just makes you look like a bully, which I guess you are since you seem to think that war and aggression is the only way out. I hope people are nicer to you than you are to others, even if you clearly don't deserve it.