1- change your perception. If you expect your friends to commit no mistake, you will be disappointed. Therefore, expect thier mistakes and have allowance before things happen. It is easier to swallow expected shocks than unexpected shocks.
2- You need to walk the extra mile. Don't wait for people to make you thier friend, take the lead and make your friends. when you see people that you want to be associated with, offer help to them in anyway, ask about them regularly, show them you care about them. They will appreciate it- with varying degrees ofcourse. Invite them for a coffeeshop or cinema or whatever. This way you will know each other more.
3- Try to know what thier interests are. nothing united people like a common interest. Capitalise on this area.
4- be patient. you will always have disagreement whther in opinion or action or otherwise. There is a proverb which suggests a relationship between your ability to make friends and how fast you get bored (inversly proportional).
5- No point in making many friends (i guess this depends on who u consider a friend). Focus on quality friends than quantity. another proverb suggest: if you consider all people to be ur true friend, then u have no friends.
7- It might be worthwhile to let life flow. There are things which are meant to be. Sometimes your circumstances give you friends without you realising at the beginning.
8- Focus on closer people to you. It is a pitty if we cannot make friends out of relatives. It is an oppurtunity cost or a lost opportunity if you like.
9- I will not say it is your problem because it is not. However, you contribute to this whether you consider it a problem or not.
10- Remember that out of sight is out of mind. this may not be entirely true but deserves consideration.
Friendship is something you grow, feed and maintain.
Keep in mind that one single action could cost you a friendship which you spent years in building.
Don't feel depressed, life has changed and is becoming more systematic on the expense of human relationships I am afraid.
These are my thoughts but it is a huge subject and interesting subject.
VB..
You will never find good friends no matter what!!
You need to do a number of things:
1- change your perception. If you expect your friends to commit no mistake, you will be disappointed. Therefore, expect thier mistakes and have allowance before things happen. It is easier to swallow expected shocks than unexpected shocks.
2- You need to walk the extra mile. Don't wait for people to make you thier friend, take the lead and make your friends. when you see people that you want to be associated with, offer help to them in anyway, ask about them regularly, show them you care about them. They will appreciate it- with varying degrees ofcourse. Invite them for a coffeeshop or cinema or whatever. This way you will know each other more.
3- Try to know what thier interests are. nothing united people like a common interest. Capitalise on this area.
4- be patient. you will always have disagreement whther in opinion or action or otherwise. There is a proverb which suggests a relationship between your ability to make friends and how fast you get bored (inversly proportional).
5- No point in making many friends (i guess this depends on who u consider a friend). Focus on quality friends than quantity. another proverb suggest: if you consider all people to be ur true friend, then u have no friends.
7- It might be worthwhile to let life flow. There are things which are meant to be. Sometimes your circumstances give you friends without you realising at the beginning.
8- Focus on closer people to you. It is a pitty if we cannot make friends out of relatives. It is an oppurtunity cost or a lost opportunity if you like.
9- I will not say it is your problem because it is not. However, you contribute to this whether you consider it a problem or not.
10- Remember that out of sight is out of mind. this may not be entirely true but deserves consideration.
Friendship is something you grow, feed and maintain.
Keep in mind that one single action could cost you a friendship which you spent years in building.
Don't feel depressed, life has changed and is becoming more systematic on the expense of human relationships I am afraid.
These are my thoughts but it is a huge subject and interesting subject.