From one dude to another let me just say all i can see from your post is a single frustrated guy. Your whole purpose of existence seems to be finding a woman you can call your own. Well face facts here dude you've tried every trick in the book yet dont seem to be getting anywhere. So stop trying and explore other aspects of life. You dont have to drink and smoke and have other vices to be cool or get noticed. What you do need to do is expand your friend circle without the intention that your doing that to find a woman. Surround yourself with friends and get this whole thing about finding a girl out of your head.

Without wanting to sound GAY, yes you have a lot of qualities to as you've written to seem to be a great guy but this whole attitude of worrying that you'll remain single is your whole problem. Focus on living life my friend, your freaking just 40! Your tastes in women isnt the same it was when you were 20, you want someone to settle down perhaps you should be looking for marriage and not regular dating. You can talk to relatives to hook u up with a lady willing to settle down too. Life does get lonely here in a place like this where every man is looked at like a desperate man just wanting a good lay.

Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)

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