I don't know where to begin trying to answer your last post, DMS.

Clearly I don't believe a husband should be a philanderer. And I'm not sure why you think I believe a wife is/should be a maid. I would have thought it's perfectly obvious from all my posts that I think that men who treat their wives as domestic help are contemptible.

I wouldn't want a wife who sits around the house all day polishing the silver and baking cookies. I'd tell her to get a life.

I don't believe a woman has any prescribed 'place' in a relationship. She is equal to her husband in every possible way, so by definition she has no place since no one has the right to tell her what to do or how to live her life. She's a grown, thinking woman capable of living her own life.