Hmm, If I wish my significant other were something else or acted differently then maybe I am with the wrong person and I should not be with him/her. As you mentioned yourself; poems, songs and art are mostly a result of someone's imagination. So is lack of imagination/romance a deciding factor in any relationship? I hope not. It sure isn't for me! To me respect, communication and understanding would be more important than romance...But to answer your question romance is spontaneous not planned, it is an expression/emotion not an act.