I just read all the comments as was not on net yesterday, some are pretty rude & some are plain ignorant. I wouldnt finger point with a particular name & say that this is not right or this is not wrong. I wrote the story & especially mentioned that she talked to him on this issue long time before too & this is not his FIRST rather SECOND marriage. Now just to give you a little more detail let me mention in points:
1. This guy is already married with his first wife for 12 years & is childless.
2. He & his parents wanted him to marry again for the sake of child & during all these years even after having a wife in the first place he got involved with so many ladies of different nationalities too.
3. Out of which he got serious with two ladies & wanted to marry either both or one of them.
4. We'll name those girls as A (programmed as contractor) & B my friend who is his present wife)
5. With A, she comes from the kind of family who is not educated & well respected, & is only intermediate or Matric in qualifications. Her brothers had a huge fight with him in the past & they made him see police station in Qatar. So, basically A's family doesnt approve of this relationship / marriage & the same goes with this man's family they do not like to have any relationship with A & hence didnt approve so they cannot be more than lovers.
6. With B, who is my friend, she is an MBA in Finance, comes from a very respectable family & is well known figure in business community due to her good customer oriented positions in jobs & this man's father too. His father knew her through her job & always use to praise her for her problem solving abilities & etc etc. When this man proposed to her for marriage, he hid his first marriage from her all this time & they were seeing each other for almost a year & a half. She used to trust him blindly as he was caring & loving (this is as he show cased himself). But he was hesitant in talking to his parents about B & marriage to her. Whereas B never hid anything from him & she told him about her whole past whereas he hid his marriage which was a serious issue. Whereas on the other side B's family was pressurizing her to get married as they wanted her to settle in her life & she already spoke to them about him, they agreed provided his parents come with the formal proposal. When she mentioned this all to the man he started giving out lame excuses, sometimes that his family is in their native country & they dont have any objection to this marriage, sometimes that father is in Qatar but all decisions are taken as final from mum so they should wait etc etc. In the end when the girl found it out that it was enough for her, she spoke to his Dad directly & from him she came to know that neither is he an Engineer which he used to boast about infact he is only Matric which is 10th standard & he is married for 12 years but is childless. She felt as if her whole world has collapsed, she was sick, she automatically became silent & didnt speak to anyone about this but told his father the whole truth that what that man used to tell her & how she was praising him in front of her family so that they approve of their marriage. Her father indirectly said to her that she should look for a good groom for herself & he cannot approve of their marriage as this might cause trouble in their family. She was shocked that already they want him to get married so why not her. But she respected his decision & said she'll not see or contact him or anyone from his family anymore. In the meanwhile, her father arranged for a marriage for her & the marriage was supposed to be taken place next year. She quietly joined gym to spend her time there & avoided him the best. Now this man who doesnt have guts to fight for her in front of his family & always lied to her, couldnt do anything more but keep any eye on her like when she goes out & comes in & tried to hack her email account to get info about her. But she avoided her all the time & told him clearly that there is nothing between them. He followed my friend everywhere like crazy, the girl called her father & spoke to him what his son doing (this happened for almost 6 months) & requested him to ask his son not to do this all as they themselves dont approve of it & now she is engaged to someone else. Her father showed his incompetence & said he cannot do anything as his son doesnt listen to anyone. To cut the story short, one day he caught her all alone & started crying in front of her that he wants her back & he will talk to her & his parents & she should finish that engagement with that guy. My friend gave her another chance that okay although you are married & you hid it, although you are very less educated & you were always lying about it, but because I sincerely loved you, I'll give you another chance only if your family brings formal proposal to my home. Now there were new excuses again but in the end after such a large fight they both got married. At first Nikah took place & wedding ceremony was supposed to be done after a month or two. Now coming to his first gf A, after only A WEEK's time B went with her husband to look for an accomodation for themselves & in the end came back to his office as he required some important papers from them. There she saw he is getting some miss calls & msgs, when she enquired who is this he said this is A, B asked did you tell her that now you are married for the second time & she should stop having all false hopes as he used to give B before marriage, he said no. Then B said okay let me send her a proper message so she understands. B sent a polite msg to her informing her about their Nikah & said she requests her to stop interfering in their already messed up life. A called her after few minutes & blamed her for everything & etc etc, which she explained to A that the man's family didnt agree for A but B that's why the marriage took place & now she cannot do anything so lets quit. AFter the conversation, B asked this man that already after so much of troubles they got married so he should stop talking to her as this hurts B plus he should not encourage A to continue with him anymore as B will not take it easily. Instead of saying that okay whatever I did in the past was wrong & now with a new marriage & new life I'll try to be loyal he started saying that I would divorce you for her but would not leave her. B was shocked at his mental state & because of all the pain she started crying & left his office to leave for her home. He kept on having this attitude till their wedding ceremony, during this time Eid came & on the first night of Eid he again fought with her & on chatting said divorce to her 3 times, this time again for that A. She could not sleep, that what kind of gift she got from her husband, he might be having 12 years old marriage but for her this is first time & she still needs to experience its job & bliss. Next morning she narrated the whole story to her family & everyone had a sad time, & they called his father to come & speak about this issue. Unfortunately, when the father came he completely showed that all mistake is of B & not his son & he put so many blames on her for nothing. Anyways the issue got solved in few days & she checked with the local religious men about the issue of divorce is this is taken place or not. As per one it happened and as per other 2 one 1 talak took place & the marriage cannot be nullified till other two are being said. So based on this wedding ceremony took place, & on the second day he fought with her again! He kept on fighting over every issue & she used to weep that what fate has written for her in this life. After 1 week of marriage he beat her so much that her face was swollen & he made the whole home dirty by throwing everything breaking everything (btw their culture for wedding is like Qataris where man pays for everything whereas my friend paid everything herself), she was heart broken that he didnt pay a single penny & is breaking her all stuff, she complained to his parents but they simply shrug their shoulders & said its your call. Later on time passed by & she found out that she is pregnant & she gave this news to her husband & family, all were happy but he continued to be in touch with A all this time. One day she found out that he is still in touch she asked him why is he cheating her, he married her for a child & God has helped her to save this marriage now he should not keep relations with other women because of whom their marriage is on rocks, again same immature attitude from the man & huge fight. Then later on so many things happened but I wont go into those details & would come to his birthday date. On his birthday she started preparing his surprise gifts & hid it in the home so that at 12 she would greet him & he would be very happy but all of a sudden his mobile rang which was on charge & normally he asks her to check his mobile to see who is calling & whether he should respond or not. At first she was surprised that who sent sms at this time, & to add to her surprise more the name appeared as contractor, whereas he never receives any sms from contractor only calls. So, in the course of moving to him & showing him his cell she read it was from A & he is still in touch with her. She gave him the mobile & asked wat is this & stood there. He couldnt give any explanation because he knew he was cheating her wife who was 24/7 thinking of him & his betterment only. She went into the room, & said now there is no need for me to wait till 12 you can see this gift now, she kept in on sofa near his hand & he threw it as if it is something dirty & didnt see it. B went to sleep directly but could not & instead spent whole night crying on her fate that what she should do now. She cannot take a proper Khula (divorce from women) from him as this would bring bad name on her & her family, she cannot fight with him as she is educated enough not to fight like dogs & in this state of pregnancy where doctor at every visit asks her not to take tension as this will harm baby & increase her sugar & blood pressure, she cannot do anything. Today is the third day, the gift is lying on the floor as it was thrown & she is not talking to him or looking at him & on top of that previously he used to come home by 6 now he comes by 10 p.m & the poor girl cannot even rest as she fears something might happen to him in traffic or something. So when he enters home then only she goes to bed for rest after long hours of duty & all this situation.
Now what would you say. She is very dishearted she only prays that she & the child die at the time of delivery so that she is put to rest from all these troubles. She is not a coward, she has faced the life very toughly but this cheater has broken her completely.
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I just read all the comments as was not on net yesterday, some are pretty rude & some are plain ignorant. I wouldnt finger point with a particular name & say that this is not right or this is not wrong. I wrote the story & especially mentioned that she talked to him on this issue long time before too & this is not his FIRST rather SECOND marriage. Now just to give you a little more detail let me mention in points:
1. This guy is already married with his first wife for 12 years & is childless.
2. He & his parents wanted him to marry again for the sake of child & during all these years even after having a wife in the first place he got involved with so many ladies of different nationalities too.
3. Out of which he got serious with two ladies & wanted to marry either both or one of them.
4. We'll name those girls as A (programmed as contractor) & B my friend who is his present wife)
5. With A, she comes from the kind of family who is not educated & well respected, & is only intermediate or Matric in qualifications. Her brothers had a huge fight with him in the past & they made him see police station in Qatar. So, basically A's family doesnt approve of this relationship / marriage & the same goes with this man's family they do not like to have any relationship with A & hence didnt approve so they cannot be more than lovers.
6. With B, who is my friend, she is an MBA in Finance, comes from a very respectable family & is well known figure in business community due to her good customer oriented positions in jobs & this man's father too. His father knew her through her job & always use to praise her for her problem solving abilities & etc etc. When this man proposed to her for marriage, he hid his first marriage from her all this time & they were seeing each other for almost a year & a half. She used to trust him blindly as he was caring & loving (this is as he show cased himself). But he was hesitant in talking to his parents about B & marriage to her. Whereas B never hid anything from him & she told him about her whole past whereas he hid his marriage which was a serious issue. Whereas on the other side B's family was pressurizing her to get married as they wanted her to settle in her life & she already spoke to them about him, they agreed provided his parents come with the formal proposal. When she mentioned this all to the man he started giving out lame excuses, sometimes that his family is in their native country & they dont have any objection to this marriage, sometimes that father is in Qatar but all decisions are taken as final from mum so they should wait etc etc. In the end when the girl found it out that it was enough for her, she spoke to his Dad directly & from him she came to know that neither is he an Engineer which he used to boast about infact he is only Matric which is 10th standard & he is married for 12 years but is childless. She felt as if her whole world has collapsed, she was sick, she automatically became silent & didnt speak to anyone about this but told his father the whole truth that what that man used to tell her & how she was praising him in front of her family so that they approve of their marriage. Her father indirectly said to her that she should look for a good groom for herself & he cannot approve of their marriage as this might cause trouble in their family. She was shocked that already they want him to get married so why not her. But she respected his decision & said she'll not see or contact him or anyone from his family anymore. In the meanwhile, her father arranged for a marriage for her & the marriage was supposed to be taken place next year. She quietly joined gym to spend her time there & avoided him the best. Now this man who doesnt have guts to fight for her in front of his family & always lied to her, couldnt do anything more but keep any eye on her like when she goes out & comes in & tried to hack her email account to get info about her. But she avoided her all the time & told him clearly that there is nothing between them. He followed my friend everywhere like crazy, the girl called her father & spoke to him what his son doing (this happened for almost 6 months) & requested him to ask his son not to do this all as they themselves dont approve of it & now she is engaged to someone else. Her father showed his incompetence & said he cannot do anything as his son doesnt listen to anyone. To cut the story short, one day he caught her all alone & started crying in front of her that he wants her back & he will talk to her & his parents & she should finish that engagement with that guy. My friend gave her another chance that okay although you are married & you hid it, although you are very less educated & you were always lying about it, but because I sincerely loved you, I'll give you another chance only if your family brings formal proposal to my home. Now there were new excuses again but in the end after such a large fight they both got married. At first Nikah took place & wedding ceremony was supposed to be done after a month or two. Now coming to his first gf A, after only A WEEK's time B went with her husband to look for an accomodation for themselves & in the end came back to his office as he required some important papers from them. There she saw he is getting some miss calls & msgs, when she enquired who is this he said this is A, B asked did you tell her that now you are married for the second time & she should stop having all false hopes as he used to give B before marriage, he said no. Then B said okay let me send her a proper message so she understands. B sent a polite msg to her informing her about their Nikah & said she requests her to stop interfering in their already messed up life. A called her after few minutes & blamed her for everything & etc etc, which she explained to A that the man's family didnt agree for A but B that's why the marriage took place & now she cannot do anything so lets quit. AFter the conversation, B asked this man that already after so much of troubles they got married so he should stop talking to her as this hurts B plus he should not encourage A to continue with him anymore as B will not take it easily. Instead of saying that okay whatever I did in the past was wrong & now with a new marriage & new life I'll try to be loyal he started saying that I would divorce you for her but would not leave her. B was shocked at his mental state & because of all the pain she started crying & left his office to leave for her home. He kept on having this attitude till their wedding ceremony, during this time Eid came & on the first night of Eid he again fought with her & on chatting said divorce to her 3 times, this time again for that A. She could not sleep, that what kind of gift she got from her husband, he might be having 12 years old marriage but for her this is first time & she still needs to experience its job & bliss. Next morning she narrated the whole story to her family & everyone had a sad time, & they called his father to come & speak about this issue. Unfortunately, when the father came he completely showed that all mistake is of B & not his son & he put so many blames on her for nothing. Anyways the issue got solved in few days & she checked with the local religious men about the issue of divorce is this is taken place or not. As per one it happened and as per other 2 one 1 talak took place & the marriage cannot be nullified till other two are being said. So based on this wedding ceremony took place, & on the second day he fought with her again! He kept on fighting over every issue & she used to weep that what fate has written for her in this life. After 1 week of marriage he beat her so much that her face was swollen & he made the whole home dirty by throwing everything breaking everything (btw their culture for wedding is like Qataris where man pays for everything whereas my friend paid everything herself), she was heart broken that he didnt pay a single penny & is breaking her all stuff, she complained to his parents but they simply shrug their shoulders & said its your call. Later on time passed by & she found out that she is pregnant & she gave this news to her husband & family, all were happy but he continued to be in touch with A all this time. One day she found out that he is still in touch she asked him why is he cheating her, he married her for a child & God has helped her to save this marriage now he should not keep relations with other women because of whom their marriage is on rocks, again same immature attitude from the man & huge fight. Then later on so many things happened but I wont go into those details & would come to his birthday date. On his birthday she started preparing his surprise gifts & hid it in the home so that at 12 she would greet him & he would be very happy but all of a sudden his mobile rang which was on charge & normally he asks her to check his mobile to see who is calling & whether he should respond or not. At first she was surprised that who sent sms at this time, & to add to her surprise more the name appeared as contractor, whereas he never receives any sms from contractor only calls. So, in the course of moving to him & showing him his cell she read it was from A & he is still in touch with her. She gave him the mobile & asked wat is this & stood there. He couldnt give any explanation because he knew he was cheating her wife who was 24/7 thinking of him & his betterment only. She went into the room, & said now there is no need for me to wait till 12 you can see this gift now, she kept in on sofa near his hand & he threw it as if it is something dirty & didnt see it. B went to sleep directly but could not & instead spent whole night crying on her fate that what she should do now. She cannot take a proper Khula (divorce from women) from him as this would bring bad name on her & her family, she cannot fight with him as she is educated enough not to fight like dogs & in this state of pregnancy where doctor at every visit asks her not to take tension as this will harm baby & increase her sugar & blood pressure, she cannot do anything. Today is the third day, the gift is lying on the floor as it was thrown & she is not talking to him or looking at him & on top of that previously he used to come home by 6 now he comes by 10 p.m & the poor girl cannot even rest as she fears something might happen to him in traffic or something. So when he enters home then only she goes to bed for rest after long hours of duty & all this situation.
Now what would you say. She is very dishearted she only prays that she & the child die at the time of delivery so that she is put to rest from all these troubles. She is not a coward, she has faced the life very toughly but this cheater has broken her completely.
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CONFUSE ............ if you cannot convince!
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