And as for the future possibility of dumping me in that trash bin outside the house ... you have no idea what I'm capable of... all hell can really break lose.

Anyway, back on topic - wife cheating behind your back - need to find out whether there was contributory negligence on your part. Communication is key. I find that many men (not all, but not a few) don't listen and simply assume things. Of course, many of the women also tend to be too "forgiving" but chalk up hubby's "breaches" because their supposedly batter halfs can't take it because of their egos, etc,etc. So there's more to everything and only the parties involved will know the truth.

OP, Good luck and hope you can work things out with your wife. I'm against divorce so I'm biased towards working things out.

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