arecel, you can change a person by encouraging that person to improve. Encouragement by words and conduct do have an effect - they inspire and motivate a person to be a better person.

Granite heads need to be aware of certain things and the way to reach them is not by force. They may use force to get what they want because they are weak in character but they can change. These are not lofty ideals that I speak from but from experience. And I think ask any of the durable happily married couples, they'd probably say the same thing.

/And by the way, granite heads are not only the men. Some women too.

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Don't want no drama,
No, no drama, no, no, no, no drama