The dichotomy is between suicide and dying for a religious cause.
Which one takes precedence? Some(you) would argue that suicide is haram, others (such as those doing and supporting suicide bombing) would argue that dying for the religion negates suicide - that's why they term it martyrdom, and are thus worthy of their place in paradise with the attendant 72 women/virgins/raisins/grapes or what ever the translation may be. You would have thought the author of the Qu'ran would have realised that in the future Arabic would evolve with vowels and saved on all this trouble about what the words actually refer to, don't ya think?

"Deaths in the Bible. God - 2,270,365
not including the victims of Noah's flood, Sodom and Gomorrah, or the
many plagues, famines, fiery serpents, etc because no specific numbers
were given. Satan - 10."