Gypsy - "Gender only comes in as a factor because culturally women are taught to "play dumb" for men."

Weeellll... I agree with you generally but specifically, I have to agree with Panda's advice above, to an extent. Smart women do play dumb if there is something they really want to achieve. People can criticize it as manipulative but some call it managing egos for the greater good and a bigger picture. It's all a matter of what the (subjective) assessments and limits are. Btw, some call it an art of war or battle plan.

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Don't want no drama,
No, no drama, no, no, no, no drama