hi chinita, i hear you there. i see your point. but you know, all females even if she's your friend, will be in denial if you told her. it's just easier not to believe things like that, even if coming from a friend.

but considering all the posts here, how about if this suggestion:

- confront the cheater.
- tell him to come clean or you will tell the wife
- send evidence to the wife anonymously
- as a good friend, be available when your friend starts crying