who.am.i said "Can't they wait until girls reach adolescence? 10, 11, 12? Wow! How will they make their 'marriage' work!"
Strictly speaking, they don't need to "make their marriage work". That's why the ideals are different from the western world. The marriage will "work", one way or another. Hopefully, for better but usually to the detriment of wifey.
1) Negative / selfish view - oppressive and infringement of personal liberty - In the marriage, the man is king and the wife is just there to serve him, in every way. The younger the wife is, the more able she will be to bear him heirs and take care of him. Hence, the chattel argument.
2) Positive / selfless view - a choice made by the individual - whether informed or not (eg. blindly following parents' advice)- primary loyalty to family. Dowry needed for parents and younger siblings to survive. Change perspective to see husband as the head of the home and duty bound to provide for and take care of wife. Wife in return appreciates it by taking care of the husband.
Asians (including Middle East Asia) go along the lines of no. 2 but those who abuse things take it to No.1. And yes, while we hear of many such horror stories, I'm not so sure that it's in the majority. It may not be. Just that we hear about and remember the negatives more. A few rotten apples make the whole basket look bad when in reality it might not be.
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Don't want no drama,
No, no drama, no, no, no, no drama
who.am.i said "Can't they wait until girls reach adolescence? 10, 11, 12? Wow! How will they make their 'marriage' work!"
Strictly speaking, they don't need to "make their marriage work". That's why the ideals are different from the western world. The marriage will "work", one way or another. Hopefully, for better but usually to the detriment of wifey.
1) Negative / selfish view - oppressive and infringement of personal liberty - In the marriage, the man is king and the wife is just there to serve him, in every way. The younger the wife is, the more able she will be to bear him heirs and take care of him. Hence, the chattel argument.
2) Positive / selfless view - a choice made by the individual - whether informed or not (eg. blindly following parents' advice)- primary loyalty to family. Dowry needed for parents and younger siblings to survive. Change perspective to see husband as the head of the home and duty bound to provide for and take care of wife. Wife in return appreciates it by taking care of the husband.
Asians (including Middle East Asia) go along the lines of no. 2 but those who abuse things take it to No.1. And yes, while we hear of many such horror stories, I'm not so sure that it's in the majority. It may not be. Just that we hear about and remember the negatives more. A few rotten apples make the whole basket look bad when in reality it might not be.
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Don't want no drama,
No, no drama, no, no, no, no drama