dmigtysolomon, "may we asked if you have realized that thing you are missing? Or are we still searching for that neddle in the haystack?"

I think he's realized it (perhaps even from before but it helps to talk about it so things become clearer) and so have we.

The saying goes that the 1st cut is the deepest and yes, tubelight is right - "that missing something was missing even at the start" of his marriage because he didn't settle himself emotionally before he took the step and responsibility to get married.

It's normal human nature to want or pine for what one cannot have or what one has lost. The saying that it's better to have loved and lost than to never love at all - is untrue. The former leaves emotional baggage like this.

But it takes great courage and character to overcome that and move on. Holding a candle for someone who is no longer yours is a waste of your precious time and your life. And you only hurt yourself and the people you love around you. I hope you find your way, to settle yourself once and for all. Where there is a will, there's a way. Anything is possible. All the best to you.

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