eaglemmanuel, I don't wish you to have a husband like him but can't you see him being honest telling it as it is to us, strangers? He was just trying to tell us what he's experiencing with his own feelings and thoughts in his heads right now. He's simply reaching out for some advices and help to deal with his own thoughts. Why can't we just deal with him without condemning or passing our own moral judgement? Why can't we accept the fact that we are just humans born with imperfection and life itself is impermanence? That people do grow and change over time? I know many people would simply walk out of the marriage but this guy at least doesn't do so and instead vowed that he'll stay with the wife until death do them part. I personally don't believe in zero sum game which dictates that one must have it all or none at all. I believe in what so called the "Middle Way", which in this context means he should stay with the wife. If he can't love her as a perfect wife that his illusion is telling him, at least he could love her as a mother of his children.