both you and your husband each come up with 5 girl names and 5 boy names. that's if you don't know the gender yet. I suggest names with family/cultural meaning. Then each of you get to strike 2 girl/boy names off of each other lists--no explanations. then try to whittle it down from there. use compromise. for my 2nd son, my husband picked out a name right off the bat. I thought it was so so, but 9 months later I hadn't thought of any that I was crazy about and since my husband LOVED the name he picked out, I decided that it really must matter to him and so we went with the name he liked. This should be a fun experience!