Yes I agree BritExpat. The arranged marriages of many is far from ideal. Particularly in cultures where asking to many questions is considered rude. Many spouses never talk or see each other before the marriage.

My mother in law married in this way. Her husband didn't have a job (even though he said he did) and she had to take him completely on trust. Left her caste and family behind (though they agreed) when she married him as well. Thankfully she was able to divorce him when my husband became older and supported her. But the emotional implications of it have scarred her indefinately.

And I am very proud that her sacrifice has helped to pave the way towards greater liberation for myself and my daughter. May Allah reward her and grant her ease inshAllah ameen.