My friend we are talking Islam not western culture, if you want to have your own culture then a Muslim girl is not for you that is the teaching of Islam whether you consider intolerant or not for us its a sign of obedience to Allah.

and any God fearing Muslim should abide the rules no matter how difficult it may seem.

Islam is all about wisdom.

Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!

- Jalaluddin al-Rumi