coelacanth, its not that i chose to be discreet only to gain respect but by acting normal makes me more comfortable, i have nothing against those who screams and shout to the whole world who they are, it's their choice.....i know for a fact that there would be no happy endings in this kind of relationship but still it affects me coz i have loved this guy as normal people do, i am not even hoping for us to be together forever...just now his trusted friend called me and told me he seem to be regretting all the things he said yesterday...he was trying to call me but i did not answer its not becoz i dont want to talk to him, i dont want to be hooked up again and be hurt for the nth times.....i am sorry if i have caused any confusion in here i dont mean to its just that i wanted your opinions...