you can't force your wife on that and in the first part ... It is all about making love, so both of you should want this, love to do this, ready for it.

If you will do it this way, it would be painful indeed as he will just go for it without any ... I don't know how to say it ... but it should not be this way ...

What kind of love are you two exchanging while the other party is sleeping? Don't tell me that she might be dreaming about it ...

Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment. (Gautama Buddha)